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If you can't be who you truly are with your significant other, it's time to think hard about what you are doing in a situation like this..why. While it's true that our partners aren't responsible for our happiness, they should certainly make our days a little brighter!Someone who is dating the right person consistently enjoys the relationship and feels a general sense of happiness (arguments aside! If you find yourself unhappy most of the time -- and especially when you are with them -- then this may be a sign that this isn't the best person for you.Maureen Mc Keon, a LCSW practicing on Long Island, New York, states, “The definition of borderline [includes] a pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships.One of the main symptoms of BPD is an intense fear of abandonment.
Look, I know there are people out there whose standards really are too high but if what you're looking for is "a funny, feminist, intelligent, cool person," trust me.
Depression doesn’t always have to be permanent, but a commitment to mental health is a lifelong thing. We’re not dark and edgy, we’ve got a mental illness. Yes, depression can mute and swamp our personality and make it like it’s taken us over. Please take a moment to appreciate that we’ve opened up and told you what we’re dealing with. You’re reeeeeally not helping by reminding us of all the things we’re failing at doing.
But you need to remember that we’re so much more than our depressed selves. We get that hanging out in bed with a very irritable, grumpy person trying to push you away emotionally isn’t the fun way to spend your Sunday. Please bear with us and focus on the hilarious and brilliant person we are when we’re not in a depressive slump. If we’ve mentioned that our depression worsens when we’re sleep-deprived or don’t exercise for a while, it’d be pretty brilliant if you can help us stay on the right track. So we seriously respect and love that you’re able to support us through all the sh*t bits and love us for who we are underneath our depression. For more information on mental illness visit Time To Change, Mind and Rethink.
So the person you’re dating has admitted they have depression. You really don’t need to change how you treat them or dramatically alter your behaviour.
Or you walked in on them crying because they’d forgotten to buy cereal, and you’re starting to wonder if something’s wrong. There are just a few things you should probably know. We’ll say we’re fine when we actually feel like we’ve just climbed out of a deep, dark hole in the ground.
Language is powerful in itself, but a depressed person will read into what you say, take it deeply personally, and analyse it for hours until it confirms every bad thing we think about ourselves. Sometimes it gets too much and we just come along to that big party/dinner with friends/lunch with your parents. We’re not being flaky, we just don’t feel like we can do it today. Please don’t endlessly question why we’re feeling so rubbish. We can feel great and think we’ve finally got through this one day, then find ourselves in a pretty dark place (in our minds. Medication can mess things up for a bit, as can, well, just being depressed. Each reason our life is brilliant feels like a little stab in our heart, asking: ‘why aren’t you happy? We feel awful about that, and we already feel like self-obsessed oversensitive arseholes for being miserable with our comparatively brilliant lives. And we don’t need anyone confirming our belief that we’re sh*tty people.